Beyond the space-as-footage (space production with profit in mind) and space articulation (the work of designers, where one way is based on perception), there is control of space--a more crucial but less talked about topic. Control is often regarded as a natural phenomenon--one way to avoid conflict. So, although one may arrive, for example, at a good design with in-built flexibility (al lowing for choice, change and participation), the ques tion still remains: Who controls flexibility ? Conflict in space occurs when a) We become aware of the control issue involved, and b) we can afford to try and do something about it. Communication, in the form of shared awareness, is lea ding to more and more conflict. On the other hand, commu nication in the form of negotiations can bring an end to a conflict. Communication is intimately linked to control (and hence conflict) whether face-to-face or using sophis ticated technology, whether non-verbal or verbal, whether small group or mass interaction. In this paper I raise issues like conflict, control, ne gotiations, exchange and communications, with design in mind--at the house and metropolitan scales.